Often times, accepting help is difficult. It’s our nature to want to help others when the need arises, but when it comes to accepting help from others when we need it most, it’s most common to decline the assistance. During times of loss and grief, it’s important to accept the thoughtful and caring actions of others. Though it may be difficult, though we may think it may be a sign of weakness, we greatly benefit from the love and care that those around us want to give. Not only do we as the one’s opening ourselves up for assistance benefit, but it makes the one who has offered help, provide a personal and meaningful gift. It is also an opportunity to build stronger relationships.
When we go through times of struggle it is normal to feel like our needs might be an inconvenience to others. It’s not that our needs aren’t real, it’s just that we don’t want others to take time away from their own busy lives to help us. When you lose a loved one, you may feel awkward when a friend wants to babysit your kids, clean your kitchen, or cook some meals. But in reality, when you accept the help that’s offered, you’re making that person feel good about being able to help.
It’s hard to admit that we might need help, but we do. It can be scary. It can push us to our limits, but we need relationships. We need others. It’s a proven fact that healthy relationships decrease our stress levels and improve our quality of life. There’s no need to fear. It is natural and human to grieve and to not have it all together. Accepting help will actually draw truly caring people to you. They will be grateful for the opportunity to express their care for you. It may be difficult at first, especially if you are hard-wired to refuse all help, but in time, it will become easier, and your life will be so much richer.
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